Truth is by nature self-evident. As soon as you remove the cobwebs of ignorance that surround it, it shines clear. – Mahatma Gandhi
I love the truth. I have always been a straight talker and I like it when people can be straight with me. This is because I like everything that I do or say to come from a place of authenticity. I want it to be real and relevant. When people are real with you you can start to see from their perspective, although you never fully can. Isn’t it great when you’re on the same page as someone and you just understand each other? And doesn’t it feel terrible when you try to convey a message and it is taken the wrong way, when what you intend for good turns out to hurt the other person through misunderstanding?
It is a part of life to misunderstand one another because we all perceive the world around us entirely different. What I think is wrong might not be for others and we never know the whole story or can truly see from someone’s point of view. All we can do is give them the benefit of the doubt and hope that they will do the same with us. Ugh.. it takes so much effort but it’s essential to maintain relationships and if you care about someone enough, you will do it.
Relationships can be huge, complicated and difficult things sometimes. I have been learning a lot recently about what it means to truly love someone; looking over the hurt they cause you, forgiving them even when it’s hard, making the extra effort to prefer them and to be there for them, especially in the more difficult times. As well as giving them the truth even if it might hurt. I know I always prefer the truth from my friends so long as it is thought through and genuine.
Truth can hurt sometimes (Dare I say most times), that’s real, but relationships not built on truth are shallow at best. They need a structure of honestly to withstand the waves when they come (And they will). Lies only delude – even if in short you build someone up on lies the end result will be them falling further then ever. Loving someone looks at building them up, so even if the truth will initially hurt, telling it like it is will make the difference. Having said this make sure you are encouraging and empathetic with it.
A quick after thought –
If you want good relationships with people consider giving them the real you. BE REAL and don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, again the end will not justify the means.
The joy in acceptance, when you stand bare before someone and they don’t turn away. Obviously, in this vulnerability we can experience the pain of rejection. Trusting people can be hard, and you need to be wise in how much you share with certain people and this is where discernment is needed. But like the saying goes ‘The truth will set you free’. Try it, be true to yourself – don’t let others dictate your focus, of what you ‘should’ be doing, which passions you ‘should’ have. Look inside yourself and discover what is true to who you are, because let me tell you something – You are a unique individual. It’s true that there is no-one like you.
Let me also add that we all lie to ourselves at times, we all tell ourselves that we are not good enough or that we can’t do certain things. Believe, that your potential is extraordinary and stand in that truth.
Another great quote to leave you with –
The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. – Winston Churchill